Lovely Ellen & inspirational. It’s strengthened my resolve on two fronts: I don’t date partnered up individuals & I have a no work romance policy too. I think the latter might be tested soon as I attend a conference with an attractive colleague at the end of March where we are co-presenting our joint research. Thankfully, he’s single… still I’d prefer not to bend the no work romance policy. What I also appreciated about your essay is your reference to the perfect universe of fantasy. That’s where I’ll retreat if reality becomes too intense 😉